Wrong ideas about getting married

1. Marriage will not fill the void in your life 

Some people think that a loving spouse will make them whole, but that is far from the truth. One of the best things that you can do to prepare yourself for marriage is to work on you, before you say I do! 

2. Marriage is not 50/50

Marriage is not 50/50. Marriage is 100/100. In order for your marriage to thrive you'll have to give everything that you can at that time to the relationship. 50% just won't do.

3. There are no dealbreakers 

When you get married you need to put all of your chips on the table and bet on your future. What we've learned from talking to couples who have been through all types of situations, is that there are no true dealbreakers. If both of you are dedicated to the marriage you can make it work.

4. Marriage makes you examine yourself

Marriage can be the best personal growth tool on the market. If you're honest with yourself, in your relationship, marriage will cause you to continuously examine your actions. It will also cause you to grow in ways that may be uncomfortable but beneficial in the long run

5. You won't know if you have unconditional love until conditions come to test it

We can often say that we love each other unconditionally but we really will never know until the conditions arise. The only thing that is definite is that these conditions will come, so do your best to prepare for them beforehand.

6. You will disagree so learn to deal with it

Lets get this straight, you will disagree. You will argue. Everything will not always be perfect, and that's OK. What's important is how you handle the disagreements when they surface.

7. The real reason for divorce is...

The real reason behind most divorces is that at least one person is not willing to do what's required to maintain the relationship. That could be counseling, compromise or personal growth and development. This is the difference between couples who go through these major issues and make it and those who do not.